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I have been thinking a great deal lately about forgiveness – with a lowercase f. That is, we all know that forgiveness in A Course in Miracles is really a way of seeing our specialness – the separation – with Jesus and the Holy Spirit as a means of healing it.
It’s not about taking note of the wrongs other people do to us, then agreeing to overlook them because we’re following a spiritual path. In ACIM terms, that is a way of making error real. We can’t be hurt or wronged. To believe we can be is the separation and it forces our brothers and sisters into separation as well.
That’s well and good – better than well and good, actually – but how are we to handle the fact that we aren’t always there? What do we do when we believe that we have been treated unfairly or poorly?
In this world – in these bodies – that is going to happen from time to time, even to those of us who are maybe starting to feel pretty consistently peaceful and happy.
I think in those situations, forgiveness with a lowercase “f” – just accepting that bad stuff happens, people screw up, including us from time to time, and so why not just let it go?
“I forgive you.” We don’t have to say it out loud. We don’t have to make a big production out of it. But we can let our hearts enter that space: forgiveness is loving. It’s okay.
It is particular loving and helpful when we can yoke it to the metaphysics behind A Course in Miracles. That is, can we have a forgiving heart here in the world while remembering that there is another way to see this? And – as importantly – being willing to try and see it that way?
More and more I realize the importance of kindness: it is a kind of service. When I am in the space of kindness, my mind is less boxed in by the ego. There is more room to remember that what I am in truth has no form and can’t be injured in any way.
Forgiveness in the world isn’t going to bring us to Heaven. But there is a gentleness to it, a lovingkindness. It is a way of saying to our brothers and sisters, “we’re in this together and I don’t want to get hung up on the little things.”
Really, I am just talking about being nice! It sounds so simple but it’s hard. If you look around, you can see this. People are scared and stressed out and sad. They’re impatient and overwhelmed. I am too! It happens. The question is: what can we do about it?
We can be nice. Why not? It opens a little space in which we can remember – and maybe even share – that this world is not our home.