The End of Selfishness

A Course in Miracles ends our selfishness by insisting that the only way to receive a blessing is to give the same to our brothers and sisters. This is the opposite of how we are accustomed to thinking and so it requires considerable vigilance and willingness. It requires our attention.

Your brother is the mirror in which you see the image of yourself as long as perception lasts. And perception will last until the Sonship knows itself as whole (T-7.VII.3:9-10).

If I am honest about this, I will see that while I appreciate this idea conceptually – while I am happy to repeat it – it mostly remains at the relative level of ideas. That is, I do not bring it into what Tara Singh called application.

We are here to bring A Course in Miracles into application, and that means we are no longer into learning. The world wants us to learn about things but we are concerned with bringing the Course into application – right here, right now. The time for learning is over (Dialogues on A Course in Miracles 60).

This is the difference between talking about a hammer – its shape, its many potential uses, its history and so forth – and actually building a house.

Attention means that I am focused on seeing you as my sister or brother, that I am focused on what I want in truth – God’s love and forgiveness – and that I am asking to be shown how to extend that love and forgiveness to you.

Vigilance is required because the tendency is to give this kind of attention to some people some of the time. But A Course in Miracles will not allow half-hearted measures. We cannot be casual about salvation.

It is as impossible to deny part of the Sonship as it is to love it in part. Nor is it possible to love it totally at times. You cannot be totally committed sometimes (T-7.VII.1:2-4).

So it is a question of willingness – am I willing to off the love of God to my brothers and sisters all the time without any exceptions or conditions?

Again, if I am honest, I will see that I am not. I will see that I am trying to compromise and negotiate. I will see that I want to bless some people more than others.

I will see that I do not believe in the absolute equality of all God’s children, all God’s creations.

And at first this will make me sad and defensive and guilty – for why else would I think that way – but, again, if I am giving attention in a gentle, non-judgmental and sustained way, then I will see that this tendency to exclude you from salvation is where salvation is.


Because in a very practical way, when I try to bring Heaven to those who I believe deserve Hell, I am at last expressing my willingness to love as God loves and to give as God gives. There is nothing mystical or mysterious about this. In the presence of the brother or sister that I hate, or scorn, or exclude, or fear, or judge in any way, I actively love.

“Actively love” in this case means nothing other than to be in a constant state of asking the Holy Spirit to help us see this other as ourselves and to direct us accordingly. It is the essence of this beautiful ACIM prayer, which begins:

I am here to be truly helpful.
I am here to represent Him who sent me (T-2.V.18:2-3).

Only by loving all of Creation can we know the peace of Christ (T-7.VII.6:5). This law is worth our attention. There are no strangers here, only the one Child of God remembering she is – literally – Home.

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